Here are four subtle (and not-so-subtle) mistakes men make with their mental health—and how to unmake them, or support someone who is making them.  This post is also available as a YouTube video (click here). Or jump to the audio version. Whenever I called home from university in my early twenties, and my father came on, he would tell the me the latest provincial rugby news. I had played at school but had since stopped. He had never been interested in rugby, except when I had [...]

Men are biologically set up to want to prove their worth and be recognised for it. Here’s what that means when things go wrong—and what you can do about it.  This post is also available as a YouTube video (click here). Or jump to the audio version. I WAS once called in to see if I could help the brother of a client. I found this guy in his early sixties, in a chair in his living room, almost catatonic. He rocked back and forth, saying, [...]

There’s a right and a wrong way for a man to chase a dream. It's linked to people’s willingness to give you a chance—which fades over time. You’d be surprised at how many men just don’t get it—and with major consequences.  This post is also available as a YouTube video (click here). Or jump to the audio version. RECENTLY I advised a young man who was preparing his first CV. He was concerned that nobody would be interested in his debating club and chess captain gold [...]

Men you don’t need to find your passion. If your passion exists it has already found you. If not, it’s whatever’s right in front of you. This post is also available as a YouTube video (click here). Or jump to the audio version. IN MY practice as a coach, I encounter many young—and some not so young—men tiptoeing hesitantly through life as they “search for their purpose”. Many feel inadequate for not having found it. They believe that when they find it, they’ll become that guy [...]

Men, if you want to be with a woman these days, you need to be a partner, and not a project. And not for their sake, but for your own. Here’s why. And how. This post is also available as a YouTube video (click here). Or jump to the audio version. MANY YOUNGER men today find themselves single and without a partner. A commonly heard explanation is that is due in large part to women’s increasing independence, especially their financial and sexual independence: they’re more likely [...]