WELCOME

Neil Bierbaum
Neil BierbaumWriter, Speaker, Coach
Hi, I’m Neil Bierbaum. I’ve spent 20+ years on a personal development journey, while operating in a business context.
I have worked in high-pressure corporate environments and spent even more time in the trenches – winning and losing – as an entrepreneur.
I’ve studied business, psychology and trained as a coach. I’ve spent more than 2,500 hours training coaches (they say you only really learn something when you teach it) and at least 25 years practicing meditation.
Most importantly, I’ve tested everything I’ve learned.
This practical application and testing what works is what best qualifies me to do what I do.
You can read more about my services below.

ANNOUNCING! The Personal Effectiveness Book Series

personal effectiveness book series neil bierbaumEACH BOOK in this series contains all the best coaching content and tools that I have uncovered and/or developed for my clients during fifteen years of practice in both a life and executive context. The core content within each book is organised sequentially to match the typical development of awareness through a coaching program. Then two of the books (the handbooks) have an added self-coaching component.

Personal Effectiveness (185 pages) contains the core content that you’d be introduced to during a life coaching program. Personal Effectiveness for Executives (261 pages) is similar, but with an executive slant. You’d read EITHER ONE of these as a regular (but rather excellent!) personal or leadership development book.

Then there are two handbooks: The Personal Effectiveness Self-Coaching Handbook (311 pages) is a standalone life coaching program, in book format. In other words, it’s the above 185-page book, plus an added self-coaching component. So you’d get this one if you wanted to put yourself through an actual life coaching program at an affordable rate. The Personal Effectiveness Self-Coaching Handbook for Executives (399 pages) is the same, with an executive slant. So, yes, that means, by choosing EITHER ONE of the handbooks, you could take yourself through an entire coaching program, either a life version, or an executive version. There’s an online support program, where you can submit your queries to me, the author, if you get stuck.

All the books are jam-packed with clearly marked scientific or source references, key concepts, real-life examples, and exercises. The themes covered include: Getting Motivated; Know Yourself (Your Personality); Working with Values; Your Power to Create; Story & Reality; Taking Responsibility (Life version); Agreement & Accountability (Executive version); Skilful Conversations (Executive version); Working with Emotions; The Flow State; Decision & Commitment; Legacy & Lifestyle; Authentic Leadership Brand (Executive version).

NOTE You’d choose just ONE of the four books, according to your needs (life or executive) and whether you want to just read the main content, or take yourself through a coaching program (the handbooks).

Purchase today and get your copy delivered to you.

MY SERVICES

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Coaching for Men

DEFINE FOR yourself what it means to be a man in the 21st Century. The old rules no longer apply. What are your values? What would meaningful success look like for you? Are you committed to achieve your potential?

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Executive Coaching

AS YOU climb the ladder of success, the demands become less technical and more behavioural. Develop your leadership skills as you move from one level to the next. Identify and develop your behavioural strengths and deal with your blind spots and avoidances. Define your authentic leadership brand.

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Team Coaching

NO MAN is an island and no leader is without a team. Developing leader and/or team in isolation from each other does not produce sustainable results. Working together produces exponential benefits to move from being conflict-ridden to high-performing.

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Practical Mindfulness

MINDFULNESS IS about so much more than paying attention while chewing your food, or chilling out to the sounds of nature. When applied properly, mindfulness is the salt in the mix that improves performance and changes your experience of life.

MY MISSION

MY COMMITMENT is to make a real, tangible difference in the world, to the way people conduct their lives. To inspire, touch and move people to grow consciously, which means: to gain greater self-awareness and thereby improve self-management in order to have a different, better experience of life; and to act for the greatest good (harmony and ongoing, shared prosperity) of all spheres of life.

SINCE ALL human endeavour is achieved through one’s efforts in relation to other people, my sessions are always targeted at improved performance through a greater awareness of self in relationship with others.

I use powerful questions to support you to get the insights that you need. I partner you to convert those insights into actions, and I make sure you measure your actions. Through this, we ensure that you habituate new, productive behaviour patterns.

In the case of executive coaching, I make sure we get input from your sponsor, the company. For teams, I work with leader and team together, bringing in real work issues to create a live, action-learning environment.

I PROMISE to deliver a state of optimal performance through mindful awareness and personal mastery, a result which I call Personal Effectiveness.

People high in personal effectiveness experience being authentic & successful, confident, caring & conscious, and powerful & peaceful.

THE TOOLS I USE

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YOU HAVE most likely been exposed to those pithy aphorisms of the ancient or Eastern sages that people share as memes on Facebook.  When you read them, the really good ones, you probably find yourself going, Yes, that’s so true. In those moments, your mind goes quiet.

By contrast, when you are given information in the form of an academic lecture or text, your mind gets busy with thinking. Thinking leads to more thinking, and things can get quite noisy in your mind.

Insights that cut through thinking

When your mind goes quiet, it’s because you’ve had an insight – or a reminder – into the way things are without any interpretation that is based on historic, cultural, personal or intellectual bias. An insight cuts through subjective thinking, and knowledge-based learning, to see things as they are.

Ontological coaching is a method of questioning that delivers this type of insight, thick and fast, on the issues that you’ve been going around in circles analysing for months and years. It supports you to stop your normal spiral through delivering an insight and, in that space, to make plans to exit the spiral and set a new course.

FOR THE most part, our personalities are positive and, by expressing them, we can offer our gifts to the world. The problem is that those same personalities include what we call a defence mechanism: the things we’ve learned to avoid at all costs.

Some people avoid breaking the rules at all costs, while others avoid seeing them at all – they pretend the rules don’t exist; some avoid risk at all costs, while others avoid failure at all costs; some avoid conflict at all costs, while others avoid people at all costs. We each have one or two key areas of avoidance which are constantly being triggered and send us spiralling into habitual patterns.

Joining the dots

The enneagram is a tool that identifies your core gifts and avoidances, and links these to your habitual behavioural patterns. It joins the dots for you and for me as coach in a way that vastly accelerates the discovery phase of the coaching process, and deepens the conversation throughout.

Get your Enneagram Report and One-on-One Debrief today. 

mindfulnessMINDFULNESS HAS become a buzzword. Yet it’s about so much more than just being present while you eat and walk. Applied properly, mindfulness is at the heart of all personal development.

The first step towards improving or transforming oneself is awareness, or being able to observe oneself objectively. This is easier said than done. When a person is angry, or scared, they are not likely to become aware. They tend to “lose themselves”.

Training the mind

Mindfulness trains the mind to recognise when it’s in a reactive state, to become present, and then to make a better choice about how to act in the situation. Clearly there are many ways to achieve this. However, mindfulness is like the “salt in the mix” that brings up the flavours of the dish – it enhances the gains you make through any other kind of practice or process.

MY CLIENTS

WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR?

What's wrong with me?

I need to know what my issues are!

Awareness is the key!

When you know the problem, the answer presents itself. Create the clarity you need with the Enneagram Report and Debrief.

I need a kick in the pants!

I don't want coaching, but could use a kickstart!

Potentiate Yourself!

The Potentiate Package is the ideal solution if you’re at a crossroads and need a little direction!

It's man versus world!

I'm worried I'll never reach my potential!

YOU'RE NOT ALONE!

You’re not alone, and your friends are not helping.
Have a look at your options.

It's tough at the top!

It's a dog-eat-dog world - and I'm all alone!

THE BEST SPORTSPEOPLE HAVE COACHES!

The margins of success get smaller, the higher you climb.
Consider your executive coaching options today!

My staff will be the end of me!

I'm tearing my hair out with frustration!

TEAM PERFORMANCE CAN BE LEARNED!

They don’t teach us how to get along, but it’s never too late to start!
Find out about team coaching.

Stress is killing me!

I need to learn to manage myself better!

BE PRESENT!

Being present and peaceful is easier said than done!
Have a look at Practical Mindfulness.