YOU HAVE most likely been exposed to those pithy aphorisms of the ancient or Eastern sages that people share as memes on Facebook. When you read them, the really good ones, you probably find yourself going, Yes, that’s so true. In those moments, your mind goes quiet.
By contrast, when you are given information in the form of an academic lecture or text, your mind gets busy with thinking. Thinking leads to more thinking, and things can get quite noisy in your mind.
Insights that cut through thinking
When your mind goes quiet, it’s because you’ve had an insight – or a reminder – into the way things are without any interpretation that is based on historic, cultural, personal or intellectual bias. An insight cuts through subjective thinking, and knowledge-based learning, to see things as they are.
Ontological coaching is a method of questioning that delivers this type of insight, thick and fast, on the issues that you’ve been going around in circles analysing for months and years. It supports you to stop your normal spiral through delivering an insight and, in that space, to make plans to exit the spiral and set a new course.
FOR THE most part, our personalities are positive and, by expressing them, we can offer our gifts to the world. The problem is that those same personalities include what we call a defence mechanism: the things we’ve learned to avoid at all costs.
Some people avoid breaking the rules at all costs, while others avoid seeing them at all – they pretend the rules don’t exist; some avoid risk at all costs, while others avoid failure at all costs; some avoid conflict at all costs, while others avoid people at all costs. We each have one or two key areas of avoidance which are constantly being triggered and send us spiralling into habitual patterns.
Joining the dots
The enneagram is a tool that identifies your core gifts and avoidances, and links these to your habitual behavioural patterns. It joins the dots for you and for me as coach in a way that vastly accelerates the discovery phase of the coaching process, and deepens the conversation throughout.
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MINDFULNESS HAS become a buzzword. Yet it’s about so much more than just being present while you eat and walk. Applied properly, mindfulness is at the heart of all personal development.
The first step towards improving or transforming oneself is awareness, or being able to observe oneself objectively. This is easier said than done. When a person is angry, or scared, they are not likely to become aware. They tend to “lose themselves”.
Training the mind
Mindfulness trains the mind to recognise when it’s in a reactive state, to become present, and then to make a better choice about how to act in the situation. Clearly there are many ways to achieve this. However, mindfulness is like the “salt in the mix” that brings up the flavours of the dish – it enhances the gains you make through any other kind of practice or process.